Busy busy

I can't believe I've been out of touch the last few days. My bad. I have been trying to do wedding planning every spare minute I have (which hasn't been many). I spoke to my sister-in-law about the possibility of my niece being my flower girl. Somehow we didn't think it would be difficult to talk the 4 year old into wearing the dress and being a princess. She wants to wear princess dresses every day so this will make her day. And when the wedding is over I know the dress will never see the inside of a consignment shop because she will wear the heck out of it. Music is my next focus. I started a list of music to be played for the wedding. Most of it is for the time when people are arriving. The hard part is finding something for when the bridal party heads down the aisle. I was going to do The Bridal Chorus aka: 'Here Comes the Bride' but I changed my mind for a cople of reasons. First of all it is overdone and expected. Secondly it comes from the opera "Lohengrin" by Wagner. Turns out this song was played in the opera after the wedding and just before the new husband killed about 5 wedding guests and then abandoned his new bride. Doesn't scream happy wedding tune now does it? So that leaves me back at square one. A place I know well. Heading out of town for a few days hoping to get a bit more planned with my friends. Wish me luck on that. ~~~ Take a music bath once or twice a week for a few seasons, and you will find that it is to the soul what the water bath is to the body. Oliver Wendell Holmes US author & physician (1809 - 1894)

Can I get a Woo-Hoo?

Someone was not only in the office to take my call but the venue is available on my date yippee!!! So I guess that makes it official. August 17, 2013 in a Japanese Friendship Garden in WI. Now everything can start to move forward. I have decided on my dress, J will wear a black suit with gray tie, his best man will wear a gray suit with black tie, my matron of honor is wearing a black dress, my flower girl will be in a gray dress and my father will be in a gray suit with gray tie. Whew. Now what's next? ~~~ Of course there is no formula for success except perhaps an unconditional acceptance of life and what it brings. Arthur Rubinstein US (Polish-born) composer & pianist (1886 - 1982)

Presidents Day

Presidents Day, kind of a non-holiday to anyone who doesn't work for the government or a bank. No mail, nobody to answer phones at government offices, not even a soul on Wall Street on the off chance you had a share of stock to sell. So now I know where I hope to be married, but there was nobody there today to answer my call asking if my venue is available or not. Now I hope to get good news tomorrow. Until I get the venue, all my planning is at a standstill. Sigh. ~~~ Hope is a waking dream. Aristotle, from Diogenes Laertius, Lives of Eminent Philosophers Greek critic, philosopher, physicist, & zoologist (384 BC - 322 BC)

August 17, 2013

Ok after some discussion with J we decided to try for a wedding date of August 17, 2013. This is 6 months away. Doable? It should be, shouldn't it? Of course I hear of people planning their wedding for over a year. But we aren't doing the big cookie cutter/fairy tale wedding (just in case you missed it in an earlier post) just something small and intimate. The problem with our wedding is that... We live in TN We want to get married in WI J's family lives in KY hence a reception there on our way back home Six months planning time Eek, here we are back at the 6 month deadline. Fingers crossed that our venue is available. A Japanese garden at a park in my hometown. Fingers crossed. ~~~ To believe with certainty we must begin with doubting. Stanislaw Leszczynski elected Polish king 1704-1709, 1733-1734 (1677 - 1766)

Mature Bride

Mature Bride. That's a nice way of saying Old Bride. I certainly don't mean to offend the person who came up with the term or the industry who continues to use it but I have learned that anyone over 40 is considered a 'mature bride'. Hmmm I wonder if I look into groomswear I will find a category for 'mature groom'. Just a thought. ~~~ By my rambling digressions I perceive myself to be growing old. Benjamin Franklin US author, diplomat, inventor, physicist, politician, & printer (1706 - 1790)

A little about me

I am a 47 year old female living in the state of confusion...make that Tennessee. Just to get it out in the open I have a very odd sense of humor as you will learn. I have been dating a wonderful man (for the sake of this blog we will call him J) for the last 15 months and we have been very happy together. I knew we would be spending the rest of our lives together but he made it official a few days ago on Valentine's Day when he proposed. Finally I am no longer a girlfriend but a fiancé! Girlfriend...think of it. The phrase immediately sounds like high school doesn't it? There is no permanence to the title, no way to make it sound like you have any sort of commitment besides sharing notes in study hall. The new phrase people use is 'significant other'. That only tells me that you aren't important enough to have a title beside 'other'. It's like the blank check of dating. You can go anywhere with someone and introduce them as your 'significant other' but all it really says is "this person won't be around long enough so don't get too attached". So now I'm a fiancé which is exciting in itself but now I realize it is the next step to the final title...wife! Before that can happen I need to plan a wedding. Looking around the web most of the wedding blogs out there are geared to the 20-something crowd. Well I'm 47 and getting married for the first time. I don't want the cookie cutter/fairy tale princess wedding the 20-something's want (sorry no offense intended if that is your thing) so I thought it might be fun to start my own blog on the subject. Join me if you dare as we head down the aisle. A wedding at 47. ~~~ Perhaps the feelings that we experience when we are in love represent a normal state. Being in love shows a person who he should be. Anton Chekhov Russian dramatist & short story author (1860 - 1904)